Originally Growin’ was about growin’ stuff, cannabis kind of stuff, but a change has been required as growin’ the thing we are is more important in this moment.
To grow firstly we have to remove some stuff, ungrow so to speak, make ourselves a lot simpler. That stuff is all the ways we have already talked about, the shit that separates us, discrimination type of shit. We remove this first and then we can grow into whatever we want to be, anything else is a stunted stagnated life.
Aware
The change in focus came in a group today. The group is called Aware Conversation , held in Haig Park here in Canberra.
It was really great, really enjoyable, may even return. The group is very similar to my own life focus; creating a space where all who enter are free to be who they are.
To let you be who you are completely I need to be free of discrimination, to allow you to heal and open up I need to be free of prejudice, to allow you to express yourself I need to be free of bias. When I offer feedback to you I need to know what I am talking about. Same for you.
I do, you do not.
This is where groups like these are getting in their own way, they think avoiding conflict is the way to creating meaningful conscious dialogue, that somehow it is safe. When sometimes it is the avoidance of the conflict which is the unsafety in the space, many times, most of the time.
Have you read my conversation with Anja regarding words? It’ll help here.
A safe space is free of discrimination, a safe space understands the foundation of discrimination, ignorance. Ignorance is getting us in all types of shit, it is driving us to leave a conversation rather than be willing to learn from it, it is allowing people like Hannah to work in spaces they have no right to.
We know people like Hannah are unaware through some simplicites, using her work to state that her voice has more weight that others, ‘I work in STEM’ I know (pretty sure that’s where anyway, gender equality and stuff). Working in gender equality, any equality, you are a failure if you do not understand fundamentals, for instance the meanings of the words you protest against, take guys for example. Already discussed this word elsewhere.
There was feedback at the end of the session from Hannah that the word guys to use as a collective term is offensive. Fred, me, of course spoke up stating it is in fact correct terminology in this scenario, when used collectively the word is gender neutral.
She fought it, but in this at that it does matter, am not disagreeing, but what I am saying is that the meaning of the word in this scenario is correct, it is gender neutral in this regard.
She argued. How can you argue, not accept me when I am absolutely correct? All the resources are available for you to see this for yourself with a little research.
Someone else joined in with Hannah, as did Akash. One agreed with Hannah and Akash went on about linguistics.
Well, actually guys, it is important in this scenario, isn’t it? This is a aware mindful conversation, which means that I am going to let you express yourself without my discriminations interrupting. Ignorance is the base of that discrimination, this word, the foundation of it, the meaning of it cannot be argued, you must accept me as I accept you otherwise this is just attachment, therefore discrimination driving this.
‘How many guys have you dated?’, ‘see, exactly!’, before had even answered and then had to swallow her pride when the answer was not what she was hoping for. I said a few, but dating probably is a very loose word for what we did together. In this scenario she was using the singular term as a plural, the singular being masculine. Now, guys, not guy as a plural but guys as its own word is a genderless term to describe a mixed group of people.
When you protest, or argue, you must know this basic shit. If you work in the mental health space, especially the equality one (which is all of you), you must know the basic shit and understand your current audience. To discriminate and then walk away like a weak cunt because you do not understand the basic shit shows you how much of a weak tool you are, that you are a coward that is projecting nothing but ignorance to the world.
People like Hannah, which is most of you, are another version of the narcissist we meet everyday. They have no business in healing spaces and have helped nobody ever (no matter how many people are tapping you on the shoulder teling you that you are great). Instead have only compiled confusion on confusion, making everything worse.
Weak people, they dominate every space and that, her, this pathetic discrimination based on ignorance, exactly the same story as Anja, is just the most horrible of horrible shit. I feel saddened for anybody who sat with her, feel saddened for the environment of equality she is abusing through toxic femininity, through ignorance, through being a violent unaware twat.
Akash is to blame here too, the facilitator, to argue linguistics is not what we are doing when the basic definition is what was being defined is ridiculously unaware. These basics, which I use, help us understand each other, an aware person understands this and does not let perception get in the way, while still understanding the perception. The basics of the language being used are absolutely imperative to be able to understand the conversation from every angle, aware people know this. Aware people know this and therefore do not let this most pathetic of pathetic shit get in the way.
Akash, aware your unaware please.
Yes, I agree Hannah, I agree that this word separates but I completely disagree that it is the word doing the separating. Separation is another meaning for discrimination, we know what happens when you discriminate in my presence, against me, by now yeah? Do not have it, not when you are supposed to be better. You cannot undo separation when you yourself are separating, you cannot heal discrimination when you yourself are discriminating.
Fucking understand this please. If you are advocating against gender discrimination but you are separating based on skin, you are the discrimination you say you are trying to undo, the same one. Advocate to remove religious hate (discrimination) and you separate between religions? You are the discrimination, the same one. Fight against rascism but discriminate against the homeless? You are the same discrimination.
Discrimination is discrimination, this is what we need to tackle, it is the drugs to the medicine in the Anja conversation, it is parent to all versions of discrimination, all version of separation; skin, gender, sexual orientation, hobbies, clothes, words, credit card debt, stress, desperation, isolation, death, suicide, mass suicide, war, genocide. All discrimination is the same, how do you not understand this??? I do not understand!
Hannah, yes you work in STEM, please quit for a while, do some inner work and reconsider. Reconsider too that the person you are talking about might have his own story, a very interesting one at that. Maybe it includes some really awful shit, maybe his fight continues, maybe, just maybe, he is somebody worth listening to rather than walking away like a beaten bitch.
My story, could have responded to Hannah using it to defend myself, but that’s what an unaware person would do. Instead, just told the truth, knew it first, definitely what the aware person would do.