We’re finally there, Groundskeeper Part Two proper, the little signs tell me this. Was just writing, getting shit out there, yelling a little, knowing it wasn’t right all the while. The most obvious of obvious was missing from it all, stage two of Fred’s game, We.
This is the aim of the game now, experience We, what a safe We is. It is the only thing that is left that is of interest to experience that I have not to this point.
The idea is the nuclear family. Nuclear family meaning the two people have babies and raise them together. It does not need to be this.
Family to me is people sharing the same space sharing themselves, they are working together to be the best version of who they are. Critical feedback is welcome, critical feedback based on examples. Everyone understands this, it is a strong version of We.
The Army, it was a strong version of this too, beautifuil family created among boys (generally) who have left their homes for the first time. Many boys who had never gone 20 kilometres beyond their family home, nuclear or otherwise.
There is a letter to Woman, have described a body part that is not required to be with me, it’s a preference but not a necessity. Children, the family, do not need to come from your body, or mine. Those that come into our world come into our world, they are equal, we are all people. Family, a space where all people are equal, it is all it needs to be.
People not treating people equally has been the downfall with living around other people, hence the hesitance to spend time in the medicine and spirituality spaces again, it is possible though, it has to be. There is evidence.
My nuclear family (with some astericks), same with just about all of yours, was the most phenomenally beautiful of phenomenally beautiful things at times, many times. Others it was a hell that destroyed lives before they started. I know it can be both beautiful and harmful, and have a clear understanding of the reasons behind it. Not all people are treated equally as people.
The father and mother stereotype is holding us all back. We can be it, call ourselves it, but the harmful point is we try to live up to the stereotype rather than just being the mother and father. Forcing and pressuring people to be what we want them to be stops them from ever becoming who they are.
Yes, there is protection, but screaming and yelling for making a mess is not protection, it is the parent projecting themselves, their irrational feelings, onto their children in order for that child to become just like them, so they never challenge them.
Sarah and her Dad, Reginald. This was the problem, Sarah has intelligence but it is completely destroyed due to discouragement. She can’t bring it out, let her brain do its thing, because of the continuous trauma. Ray, same man, is seriously ignorant, he is the most unintelligent man I know, again, Sarah is not.
Ray cannot be challenged, he blows up, and I have blown at him. Anything that he does not understand or is not his way, he blows up. Sarah asking questions and not accepting his answers that made no sense challenged him and so he forced himself on her. Pushed her and pushed her, attacked and attacked, made sure her voice and confidence was lower to the ground than her pussy. Far out he treated her poorly.
The above example is so common, maybe not to this degree but it happens in every house, hence there is family violence in every home, in every street, in every town of the entire world. If we want to fix it, it starts with you and me. The starting point is understanding our own behaviour.
Firstly understand if you let yourself enjoy cleaning, doing the dishes, cooking and all the other mundane stuff your child would be interested too. The whole reason they are not interested is because every lived example when it comes to these activities is you complaining about them. How do you expect them to clean, want to be clean, be clean, when every example tells them it is an awful activity?
Plus, more importantly if you stopped fussing over it you also stop becoming frustrated over it, your space is safer.
This is the space family is to me, people who care enough to care about the world they live in to make it the most open and honest world it can be.
A space where we are all free to be who we are together.